Handling Haters

Sometimes People Look At You Sideways

If you think everyone will like you, you are sadly mistaken. If you think people will always try to understand your perspective, you are wrong. And if you think that you are just not trying hard enough let me be the first to tell you that there is not that much effort in the world. There is no world in which everyone likes you and even those who you call friend sometimes may be your worst enemies. It's just the way it is. People, half the time people you don't even know, will always be ready and willing to say something negative about you. There are no doubts about that but it's okay. Don't stress about it and don't think on it too much because while you're stressing, they're moving on with their lives and probably hurting other people.

When people look sideways, they can't see forward.

All you need to do is smile!

Usually the people who talk about you behind your back are too afraid to ever come out and say something to your face. They will tell others, post it on social media and think that they did something but truth be told, if someone isn't man or woman enough to take a complaint straight to the person then they have no right to spread it around like a cold. And how should you handle these haters you ask? Smile and wave. Unless someone lays a hand on you first there is no need for violence. And just because someone goes around spreading rumors about you doesn't mean you should do the same. Don't return evil for evil it just perpetuates the cycle. And if someone does say something to you and offends you in anyway there are a few options you can take:

1.) Walk away and ignore them

2.) Say, "Keep looking sideways and you'll break your neck" and walk away

3.) Say, "Thanks for the social criticism, I'll keep that in mind" and walk away

Each of these end with you walking away, so I suggest going for the one that takes the least effort. And yes, there are times when you can't walk away, like if you're approached at work or school or something like that. And in those cases, ignoring them makes the problem escalate but you still need to handle it in a positive way. And that way is different for everyone, there's no cheat sheet but don't let anyone put you in a bad mood. Don't give them that power over you.

My mom always says: If someone hates you, you might just be doing something right. Not to say that the only reason people dislike you is because of jealousy or something like that but sometimes people are angry with you because you did what was right when they chose not to and they ended up in the dog house. Nobody's perfect, and this includes you. Some people feel entitled to what they have in life and think that they are above others and the rules of society so those who uphold the rules tend to be disliked by those who don't. But the Bible says that when you love those who hate you what you're really doing is lumping live coals on their heads. Proverbs 25:21-22. Don't be too upset because you may just be in the right.

However, there are times when you can be in the wrong, never forget that. If different people keep telling you the same thing, don't just assume they are hating on you. They may have a point. But if its one person or one person's group of friends, then maybe it's just some hater-ade. And, to paraphrase gospel rapper KB, you're gonna be okay even if they don't okay you.

Here's how KB handles his haters:

How do you handle yours?